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#020 The Emotion Code: Healing and Transformation Through Releasing Repressed Emotions with Adam De Vaney

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What if unlocking emotional freedom was as simple as letting go of what no longer serves you? This episode features an enlightening conversation with the insightful Adam De Vaney, a clinical social worker and master of the emotion code. Adam guides us through the remarkable journey of identifying and releasing repressed emotions, which can often sabotage our personal growth and well-being. Through practical strategies and heartfelt stories, we learn how recognizing and freeing ourselves from these emotional blocks can lead to profound transformations both internally and externally.

In this episode, we dive into:

  • The journey of identifying and letting go of repressed emotions
  • How emotional blocks sabotage personal growth and well-being
  • Practical strategies for recognizing and releasing emotional baggage
  • Adam's mentor Steve, and his courageous battle with childhood emotional repression and its impact on his adult life
  • The life-changing retreat that helped Steve overcome significant health challenges
  • Adam's personal transformative discoveries through works like Power vs. Force and the documentary E-Motion
  • The dynamics of empathy and emotional absorption
  • Techniques to maintain emotional balance amidst life's demands
  • The role of the Life’s Work Holistic Learning Center in empowering emotional freedom
  • And so much more!

You will love this episode if:

  • You feel stuck in patterns of self-doubt or emotional overwhelm.
  • You struggle to let go of past experiences that still affect your present.
  • You find it challenging to maintain emotional energy amidst life’s demands.
  • You’re curious about how emotional release can improve your physical and mental health.
  • You’re seeking practical tools to break through emotional barriers and embrace personal growth.

This episode offers valuable insights, compelling stories, and actionable strategies to help you achieve emotional freedom and create a more balanced, fulfilling life.

If you'd like to learn more about The Emotion Code, or get in touch with Adam, you can do so by heading too Adam's website, or learn more from his 'Loving Our Life's Work' podcast.

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Speaker 1:

There's a place for all of the emotions that become trapped in our body, the perfectly natural part and helpful part of the human experience. When we go into resistance, that's when we stuff them down, that's when they become problematic. So a single trapped emotion over the course of a lifetime, undealt with, could potentially lead to thousands of thoughts, and this is where the subconscious begins to drive our reactions and our blocks right and our health. The real freedom in this is once you get good at releasing this, once you get good at letting things go like that, you can actually feel free to experience the emotional experience in its richness and entirety, because you know it's not going to get the better of you or it's going to get stuck.

Speaker 1:

There's never any substitute for doing the important inner work. The more we can go inside and clean up the mess that our childhood, our adolescence brought about, our interacting with the civilization that seems determined to toxify every aspect of our being, the more we can clean up, the more we can let go of, the better we feel, the better our lives are, the more meaning we can then fill that space with, the more purpose we can fill that space with, and it's very difficult to go out there and actually do all these different things if our inner environment is toxified by in the case of my work emotion, toxic, emotional, repressed energies. Liberate yourself, get to the point where, when you have an emotion, you can embrace the emotion.

Speaker 2:

Welcome to the Emotions Untapped podcast. I'm your host, livia Lauder. This is the show where we explore the power of our thoughts, feelings and emotions and how they create our personal and professional realities In this community. We dive into better understanding, using and managing these elements of ourselves so we can live healthier, better balanced and less overwhelming lives. You'll hear conversations with experts and thought leaders from a variety of fields here to help you gain insights, strategies and tools for building and upgrading your emotional awareness and regulation techniques, and there will be a couple solo episodes with yours truly. It brings me so much joy to share this information with you, to connect with you and guide you on your journey. If you're ready to start doing the work, you can download our free seven-step guide to improving your emotional health right now. Just go to wwweqnationorg. Now let's dive in. Welcome to another episode of the Emotions Untapped podcast.

Speaker 2:

Our star of the show this week is Adam Devaney. Adam is a clinical social worker, an emotional release specialist and certified emotion code practitioner. He helps people identify and release trapped and repressed emotional energies lodged in the subconscious that are causing repeated patterns, misunderstood reactions and blocks in their lives. So the result of this work is a new internal balance at the subconscious level that leaves clients feeling more centered, lighter and no longer prone to triggers. He does work mainly with other health-licensed professionals, from counselors to psychiatrists, allowing them to level up both personally and professionally, and Adam has a super interesting story to share around how he came about this work, and he's going to talk to us today about the emotion code, so I'm super excited to share this conversation with you. So let's dive in. Adam, thank you so much for being on the show today. It's been a while since we saw each other last. How are you?

Speaker 1:

I'm well and thank you for having me on here. I really appreciate the opportunity Always appreciate the opportunity to share this information with people.

Speaker 2:

Well, it's such powerful work and relatively new-ish in the terms of emotional health. I was actually having a conversation just a little while ago with a woman was telling me about the emotional intelligence book that was written in the 90s, which was really kind of the first time that people started having these conversations. So even though the 90s was 30 years ago now, it is all relatively new in kind of the world of health, I would say. So we're going to talk about the emotion code today, what this process is and how it helps people. But, as I mentioned before in the pre-interview, you shared a super interesting story of how you came to know and understand this work, so I would love for you to share that story again with us today.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, of course. So this was one of those things that, like, apparently, I wasn't going to avoid in my life. Some things just seem to be predestined and it is just nothing that you can do about that. So when I was really young, being raised by a single mom, she had the wherewithal and insight to put me in and get me involved with the Big Brothers Big Sisters program, and my second big brother in that program was a guy named Steve, and we really meshed and during the few years that we were together in the program from 13 to about 15 and a half, until he moved to Australia it was a great bonding experience.

Speaker 1:

Now Steve was born in the Boston area and his parents were both alcoholics, mostly his mother, but kind of by default his father. And so when he was really really young he had just kind of had it I mean like eight years old right, he just had to be broke my mother is an alcoholic on a piece of paper and he put it in his pocket. He was going to give it to a trusted adult at school. Now he had no idea or no context for what was going to happen when he was that young at school. Now he had no idea or no context for what was going to happen when he was that young. Throughout that day he just kept. Every time he'd go to give that information to someone, he would just kind of stuff all that emotion around that down into a little knot in his gut right, and by the end of the day he hadn't told anybody. He just decided he was going to anything around that. He was just going to stuff that down in his gut for the rest of his life. He was going to anything around that. He was just going to stop that down in his gut for the rest of his life.

Speaker 1:

Fast forward 30 years. Right, he's married. He's got two kids. Right, brings his. Uh, he'd moved to australia. So he brought his family back, uh, got some work here and his goal was to have, get them to have a relationship with this mom, with the, with the grandma and the mother of right. Well, that failed colossally. And when that failed failed, steve had no choice but to gather up his family, tuck his tail between his legs and go back to Australia and just stuff all of that pain. Now the two big women in his life were at odds, right, and he stuffed that all down into that little knot in his gut.

Speaker 1:

Two and a half months later he was diagnosed with bowel cancer at 38 years old. And through a series of introspective moments he discovered at a retreat one day after he woke up into the worst panic attack of his life and for 45 minutes it wouldn't ever flow, no matter what he did. And during an eye-to-eye meditation with one of the teachers, he realized what he'd been doing his whole life. He'd been stuffing all that emotion down into that all knot in his gut and that thing that he thought was this great adaptation, that this thing that just got him through everything right, realized, man, he'd given himself cancer by stuffing all those emotions down and holding them down. And then that teacher who was with him in that eye-to-eye meditation said okay, steve, I want you to bring that out and I want you to take a look at that. Steve's like no way, not a chance, right? Like that's going to devour me, right? And he's like, no, no, this is good, just bring it out in the light of acceptance, love and something magical will happen. And he did that. That's the moment he was like I cannot believe I gave myself cancer. Then the guy says to him hey, now, steve, I want you to release that. I want you to take that. I just want you to release it back to the universe, give it back. My just want you to release it back to the universe, give it back my brother's like you can do that. He's like, hey, you can do that. And uh, so he, he took a deep breath, he let it out and he released that back to the universe and he's that was at 38. Uh, he is, uh, I think, turning 63 this year and he'll look you in the eye and say I'll never give myself cancer. And so then, uh, in 2004, he uh came back to the states to visit his mom.

Speaker 1:

I flew down to florida to visit with him and his family and he introduced me to a book, um, called power versus force, by david r hawkins, that introduced the concept of muscle testing, applied applied kinesiology, and I've been doing that for about 18 years. And that is just the body's way of telling us. You know, if something is really if well, our body, our nervous system, will stay strong in the presence of something that's life enhancing. It'll go weak, demonstrably weak, in the presence of something that is detrimental to our life. So, essentially, truth versus falsehood, falsehood, right. So he introduced me and my brother introduced me to that too, right.

Speaker 1:

So then I'm flipping through amazon prime one and I just signed up for a free trial of the gaia channel, right. And I saw this, this thing, this documentary called e-motion, and I was like I was a, I'm a therapist, right. So I was like, oh yeah, energy, emotion, like that makes sense. What's this? And that's where Dr Bradley Nelson came out and said, oh, so we have these emotional experiences and we don't want them, and we go to resistance and we stuff them down into our bodies, right.

Speaker 1:

And then we have to go in there and connect with the subconscious and have it identify those things that we trapped in there. And then we go through a simple process of releasing, he says, and then we use muscle testing to communicate with that subconscious and I'm like that's everything. That's like my whole relationship with my brother, right Now, this guy, my brother, lives on the other side of the world, can't live farther away from me, right. And these destinies were like this, and I knew. And so I got my brother on Telegram. I was like, bro, we got this video right. And I was like you're not going to believe, louis, what I just found. And then, of, of course, while he's on there, he's like, oh, look, there's a, uh, there's a training, right. So he's like I just signed up for the training. I'm like I have to sign up for the training now and the rest is history.

Speaker 1:

And so it changed in a, in a, it all converged and it changed not only my wife, because I was finally able to use the tools I had, plus, uh, dr Nelson's tools to identify these trapped emotions and release them, but it radically transformed my therapy practice and ultimately introduced me to the potential for going into the global e-learning and coaching market. And it just changed everything. People started getting my clients started getting results right away. Everything People started getting my clients started getting results right away. Things that had vexed people for their entire lives were, in a session, healed, sometimes. Pretty amazing stuff.

Speaker 2:

Such incredible work and really cool how it kind of tied it all together for you, Like you were studying kinesiology and learning all of these different things. And then this was kind of like the icing on the cake, right. It kind of brought all the pieces together and, like you said, it was like this is everything, Like finally it all makes sense.

Speaker 1:

They really did. And when things like that happen to our lives and we apply the meaning that we find in that and then we dive in right. That informed my own podcast, which is the Lo. That informed my own podcast, which is the Loving Our Life's Work podcast, where I bring people on who are channeling that passion and that meaning in their work with other people.

Speaker 2:

Incredible. I love that. So the mission just you know it expands. So you do work mainly one-on-one with clients, is that correct?

Speaker 1:

Yes, that's right, I have a full therapy practice. I also have a buprenorphine or Suboxone clinic that I run out of my clinic as well, and then I have the coaching on top of that. And yeah, I could go on and on about the 27-page business plan that I have for my next phase of expansion, but that's probably another podcast.

Speaker 2:

Well, thank you so much for sharing that story. There's so much power in so many of the things that you said, like one of them, just how powerful retreats are and to be guided in that process, to have you know those feelings for your brother like to come to the surface and, yeah, there's just so much power in just having someone there to support you and to guide you through that. So you mentioned Dr Bradley Nelson from the Emotions documentary, which you did mention to me in our pre-interview, which I actually got the free trial for Gaia and I went and watched it myself as well. Very interesting movie. I found that there was documentary, I should say. I should say there are a lot of the information that they were sharing. It was really fascinating to me because I was kind of like like I knew it already, but to hear it from them, from these professionals and experts, and for them to articulate it in the way that they did, I was just like it just gave me so much more self-belief that the work that I'm doing as well and the things that I believe in are, you know, on par with what the experts are talking about. So that was really cool. It was really kind of validating to kind of all of the things that I learned on my own personal journey. It was kind of all packaged up in this, you know hour and a half, like beautiful little visual platform, and I was able to digest that and go okay, yes, so I'm on the right track, this all makes sense.

Speaker 2:

So Dr Bradley Nelson wrote the book Emotion Code. This all makes sense. So Dr Bradley Nelson wrote the book Emotion Code, as you mentioned. So it's all about identifying and releasing those trapped emotions, and his belief is that the stored energy in the body can cause mental, physical and emotional stress and dis-ease, as you've so proved to us with your story. So Emotion Code is a method of energy healing that releases that stuck energy in the body. So can you share how this energy healing process works and how it's helping people?

Speaker 1:

Certainly so. It all starts with an intention, right, when you're going to do this type of work, you really have to be very clear about what you're doing. Okay, so you might, you might, uh, let's say you uh. One of the ways that I work with people is on their relationships, uh, like their primary relationships, their mom, their dad, the creepy uncle, whatever right People. They had toxic experiences with employers, ex lovers, things like that. Relationships can be a huge area that you just get a lot done, because really those are the emotions that affect so much of our life and on a daily basis. Sometimes we can go it and we can create intentions to heal something. If someone comes to me with anxiety, right, I might create an intention around, uh, prompting the subconscious to uh, to, to dish up that information. Uh, and how many emotions we are looking at that are unbalancing that person's relationship with anxiety, which is a perfectly normal emotion and 30,000 years ago, kept us from running blindly around a corner because there might be something there with big teeth to eat us. Right, there's a place for all of the emotions that become trapped in our body the perfectly natural part and helpful part of the human experience. When we go into resistance. That's when we stuff them down. That's when they become problematic, right? So it starts with that intention. So it might be something like there are trapped emotions and so-and-so that are contributing to the imbalance in their relationship with the emotion of anxiety, right? Or it might be they're trapped emotions and so and so that from their experiences with their ex-husband so and so, that need to be released, right, they're an ex for a reason, so we find a lot of them there, yeah. And so you start out with that intention, right. And then the next step as we write out that intention, we have that intention set aside, and that is our focus for the session. And so then what I do is you get permission from the person to connect in directly with their subconscious. This is something that in the training that we went through, it's a very simple process. We were trained to do that. I've done it a thousand times, right, and it only takes me about five seconds of quiet meditation to do that with the person's permission. Now, understand what this connection is. This connection is more like being logged into someone's Wi-Fi. You can't read their emails, okay, I can't read people's thoughts or anything like that, but the connection is so real and so vivid that occasionally, when, when there's a physical sensation experienced by the client, when they're releasing an emotion that is sometimes experienced by the practitioner, a very unique uh connection there and at the end of it you disconnect, okay. Um, so you've got this connection made. State the uh. State the intention. You disconnect, okay. So you've got this connection made. State the intention. You read through the intention. You muscle test that. That test strong.

Speaker 1:

Yes, there are emotions that need to be released. Then we'll just go through and we'll find out how many. Okay, sometimes it's just a couple, right? Sometimes it's dozens and dozens, right? And that's a simple process of using muscle testing. If there's more than 10 emotions to be released, more than 20, more than 30, more than 40. No, is it between 30 and 40? Yes. Is it between? Is it closer to 30 than 40? Yes. Is it between 30 and 35? Yes. And you just narrow it down. Okay, that again. I've been doing muscle testing now for 20 years. It's kind of second nature to me. Dr Bradley Nelson had me at muscle testing because I knew it couldn't be fate if it was using the applied kinesiology.

Speaker 1:

Okay, so then what you do is you go through again, you state the intention, you muscle test it. Then you say this emotion is, uh, the first emotion to be released is, and you check what type of emotion it is. I checked for three types of emotions inherited right. I checked for absorb types of emotions Inherited right. I check for absorbed from somebody else, and we'll go into that a little bit later what that's like and how that happens. It's that double-edged sword of empathy, right? Or if it's just theirs, now, the majority of the experiences that people are, trapped emotions that people have are just going to be from their own emotional experiences that they went into resistance with, right? So once we know, let's say it's theirs, right.

Speaker 1:

Then we go to the emotion code chart. It's a chart with two columns and six rows and it's got 60 of the most commonly trapped emotions that happened to us. And then you just again, you just use muscle testing. It's in column A, column B right, it's in column A, okay, so that was strong, right? Is it in the odd rows? Yes, the row one, row three, it's in row three A. Now we're down to five, just like that Very quick, right? Then we just go through the five emotions that are in that box. One of them will test strong. Here's the beautiful about this, lydia it's their subconscious that's doing this as a practitioner.

Speaker 1:

I'm just here running the technique, remember, connected, I'm logged into their Wi-Fi, right. So all I'm doing is giving prompts, just like this prompt, to this laptop that I'm on, right, I give it prompts. It does this, subconscious is just like this and have an opinion of its own. But if you give it very direct prompts, you can get it to communicate in very direct ways. So once we have that, there's a typical what happens is that's now active in the person, it's triggered, if you will, in the person, and then at that point we can just go right into the releasing, okay, or we can. There's a bunch of definitions, or someone in a therapeutic setting and someone wants to process a little bit. That's fine too, right.

Speaker 1:

But this is what happens when an emotion is triggered, let's say it's stored right here, it's a little ball of energy here, okay, and uh, when a trigger happens, that little ball of energy gets activated, right, right, and then it follows a very particular path up the main meridian in the human body, up the back of the head to the thinker Now, where it leads to thoughts. Now, many of us have, many of us have, interacted with this. I call this the overthinker. Oh, you've met that.

Speaker 2:

Oh yes, we're very familiar.

Speaker 1:

Many of your listeners probably are as well. Right, and then. So it leads to thought. So a single trapped emotion over the course of a lifetime, undealt with, could potentially lead to thousands of thoughts. And this is where the subconscious begins to drive in our reactions in our blocks, to drive us in our reactions in our blocks.

Speaker 2:

Right, in our health, um.

Speaker 1:

So that thought will often lead to behavior. If a trigger thought, behavior is repeated enough, it can lead to a belief those are never true, I'll never be loved, I'll never be successful, I'll never be fit right, and, and that's how that process works. That's how it harms us mentally, emotionally, physically, right, but since that's triggered in that person, that thing triggered in that person, that's how it's sub got that person. So god just communicated with me. Right, we can go into the releasing part now. Typically we use uh magnets. I don't have my magnets here because my clients on the other side of the room where we're using my magnets today, uh, but but you can do with your hand too. Magnets are nice because we're electromagnetic. This whole process is electromagnetic, everything, everything is right, um. And so then you tell your subconscious, okay, it's time to release this emotion of say, of whatever it is right, and then you reverse the process, but that, holding that intention, just let that bloody go, and and and that in that moment sometimes people are like that seems a little woo-woo to me. That's fine, right.

Speaker 1:

The first time you feel an emotion, leave your body. The first time, anxiety, nervousness and and worry, right, it's released and your stomach goes right, or you're like, oh, I felt kind of nauseous, releasing despair, right? Everybody's a true believer in that. First time that happens, that's usually just a couple of emotions and then you go through one by one, by one, until the 43 of them are done, right, and then that experience.

Speaker 1:

Now you have a couple of days of processing. Now you have a couple of days where you're going to need to drink a lot of water to just use your electrolytes up to move all that energy. Okay, but over the course of the next week you're going to process all that out, you're going to rebalance the subconscious. And it's like taking a laptop like this that I downloaded too many apps on and they're always running in the background, right, and now it won't load a browser, right, and then telling it to identify each one of those individually and clicking on them and deleting the app. It'll run the way it was supposed to. That's the process, that's the beauty of it.

Speaker 2:

We'll be right back after a quick break. That's the process and that's the beauty of it We'll be right back after a quick break. I hope you're loving the show so far. The personal development journey can feel lonely sometimes, but it doesn't have to. We are here to help each other succeed at figuring out this whole growth thing. So come be a part of the conversation at wwweqnationorg. There you'll find links to our free community, which is full of valuable resources to get you feeling unstuck, less stressed and more connected to yourself and the people around you. And if this podcast does bring you value which I'm sure it will chances are it will do the same for someone else in your life. We are all about bringing value to the collective. So share this episode directly with a friend or pop it on your socials with your biggest aha moment from today's show, and don't forget to tag us at Livia Lauder. That's L-I-V-I-A dot L-O-W-D-E-R. Right, let's get back to it.

Speaker 2:

This is fascinating stuff. It's so common as well for people to stuff emotions down right and create that resistance, like all of us are guilty of doing that. There's no one who out there who doesn't do that or at one point in their life, you know haven't done that. I love the analogies that you use too, like the Wi-Fi and the email, right Like you're tapping into the Wi-Fi but you can't read emails. It's not an intrusive thing, it's just you're there, you're connected. I find that so fascinating, so curious as well. When the release is happening, are people experiencing physical like? Are they crying? Are they shaking their body Like? Are there also physical kind of symptoms of that energy being released?

Speaker 1:

That's when people become true believers when they first feel the first emotion, just physically leave their body. Most of the time it's fairly like someone might say, oh, I really felt that, leave, I really felt like, if they're releasing a heart emotion, like a tug on their heart, while they were releasing it, they're relatively minor, okay, cool, but in that moment they're quite noticeable. It's really fascinating because, being connected into the subconscious, sometimes it's like I'll be like, without guiding them right, without planting a suggestion, I'll say did you feel that one? Because I did right. And then they'll typically say exactly what I experienced. It's almost 100% Right. It's a very visceral experience and it's also very like kind of where two or more are gathered in my name, kind of thing. Right, there's two people. I'm doing the releasing while they're doing the releasing. Both of us are doing that. There's two people I'm doing the releasing while they're doing a releasing. Both of us are doing that.

Speaker 2:

It's just so powerful in its effect, fascinating stuff. So the muscle testing that you mentioned to you were kind of motioning, you know, one hand kind of coming to the other. Now I am not familiar. What at all about muscle testing? Is this something that you're just doing with your hands, or is there like a tool or a machine or something that you're using in this process?

Speaker 1:

So there's 51 different muscle groups in the human body that can be muscles. Some people use their fingers, Some people do the pull test right Strong, weak.

Speaker 2:

Okay, I've seen that, yeah.

Speaker 1:

So some people, some of your listeners probably, went to a chiropractor who would put your arm out, like this, and put a supplement next to you and, like you know, do the muscle testing that way. Um, it's pretty common. So I use these muscles here, right, um, and I hold my right arm uh strong, right, and I'll think of something sort of like. Uh like, if I think about something health promoting, like organic, grass fed ribeye, that sounds good.

Speaker 2:

Right.

Speaker 1:

Or if I'd say something that clearly is like weak, right, like Diet Coke, ok, I mean, my body will not stay strong in the presence of that stimuli. We all do this, naturally. Someone's really saying something that we're really jiving with, we'll just kind of lean in and if they're just talking smack and it doesn't make any sense, we'll kind of repel. People do that all the time. Sometimes, you'll notice, sometimes, especially in like food co-ops and stuff, people will be doing the sway test. They'll take the food and they'll put it up to their solar plexus and they'll be like swaying one. Be like swaying one way or the other. Like you know, if they sway back, they'll just put it back on the shelf.

Speaker 2:

Interesting. I've actually never seen anyone do that before, but now that you've said it and I know about it, I'll probably see it all the time. Yeah, fantastic. Okay, so let's talk about so you mentioned this briefly. Let's talk about how we absorb other people's emotions and then energy, especially those that are our closest relationships, as you mentioned before. You know our parents, our close relatives, our partners, relationship intimate partners, et cetera.

Speaker 1:

So that's great. So there are three aspects. First of all, you need to know the three aspects to a healthy relationship with emotion. Okay, first one is we create the vibration of the emotion in the body. Second, is we feel that emotion? Right, this only takes a moment to go from one to the next. Okay, Once this is our messenger, it's a beautiful emotional messaging system.

Speaker 1:

Fundamentally, it's only saying one of two things Things are how we would like them in our environment. Things are not how we would like them in our environment Okay. When things are not how we would like them in our environment, ok. When things are not as we like them, we often go into resistance to the emotion and, of course, what we know, that what we resist persists, so it becomes stronger and last longer, which is not ideal. Not really what we're going for when we do that. Right, but that's your messenger. Once you've got the message, you fundamentally know the answer to that question. That's all the emotion was there to do. You can get to the third and healthy step of emotion and just let it go instead of swallowing it down. Okay.

Speaker 1:

Problem is um, this is the double-edged sword of of empathy. In humans, we have mirror neurons. Mirror neurons are the same things, uh, same sets of neurons that allow bird flocks to fly together, horse herds to move together, fishes, dogs one like that too okay, okay, cool, it's an actual physical set of neurons. So when we're in the presence of someone having an intense emotional experience, maybe we're helping a friend who just went through some loss or who just went through a divorce and is feeling betrayed or abandoned. Right, that's a very strong emotion and while people can try to change how they present themselves, they'll change their body language, their tone, they'll choose their words, manage, try to manage their facial expression. It doesn't matter. This is all vibration, this is all energy and it doesn't matter if someone does that. You cannot hide from our subconscious that vibration. Okay, so what can happen is it can create a sympathetic resonance in you. That's empathy, that's those mirror neurons on the physical level, right. Once that happens, it's possible that you could start feeling that emotion, that's empathy. Right Now, if you start feeling that emotion and you don't like that emotion and you go into resistance and you're like I just need to be here with this person, I need to stuff this down, right, helpers often suffer from this right.

Speaker 1:

Then it's in there and when it comes back up, your subconscious and your conscious mind will make no differentiation as to whether that was originally your emotion or not. It's a stuff down, trapped emotion, repressed emotion, and when it comes up it's going to act like it was just yours. And then, of course, there's inherited. We get that from our mom and our dad. Those can go back multiple generations. I find things like that like in the male line of very successful families, I find a lot of worry because they were the primary breadwinners, yeah Right. I also find a lot of in females that goes back through the female line. If those females were the primary caregivers and managers of the family, right, they can suffer from overwhelm or effort unreceived. In other words, they put out all this effort, nobody's letting them know that they're doing a good job or that they appreciate.

Speaker 2:

Pour it from the empty cup.

Speaker 1:

Those are common things I find in inherited trapped emotions. So, and those you know, those are a little different. You know, repressed trapped emotions we use five swipes because they're very. Or the, the absorbed trapped emotions we use five swipes instead of three because they're very sticky. Um, and in in the uh, uh, inherited ones, it's like ten swipes. I mean, these are just, these are these are breaking family curses. Right, identifying and breaking family curses so, um, it's powerful. Those aren't as common.

Speaker 2:

The bulk of everything is the person's experience truly understand that simply being around other people we are going to absorb that vibration, essentially right. So when we have a better understanding of this, it becomes so much easier to make a decision to protect our energy, stay away from those energy vampires, as I air quote. However, I mean we can't necessarily just avoid certain people. So do you have any insights, strategies and or tools on how we can kind of manage that and protect ourselves a little bit better so that we don't absorb those emotions or we do absorb them and then we do something to kind of release? What advice would you have?

Speaker 1:

in that realm. I always say as a therapist and as a coach, like there's no substitute for just doing the important inner work right. And the more of this type of work you do, the more you get used to the notion of like oh, I'm really, I'm picking up on this right, the more you get used to leasing processes, just being like in grounding, right, these are my wife. She's amazing at this. She's sometimes, if she gets caught in the car with me on a long drive and I've had too much caffeine, right, right, so something like that right, she'll just be over there and like every now and then. She'll just be like, like, I get it Deep breaths yeah.

Speaker 1:

Grounding that information and letting it go Some people. I'll tell you the experience I had one time. I was working on this petition drive. All summer long I got shut down by this same security company. I was a paid petitioner and every I'd go to these events and the same company would shut me down all summer long. It was very annoying, cost me lots of money. It cost me lots of signatures, right, because I believed in the issue as well. So one day I got shut down by them again and I went home and I was staying at my mom's house for the time, for the six months of the petition drive, because she was where the people were right and I live kind of in a more rural area and I was like man, I can't go home to my mom's house like this.

Speaker 1:

I was all jacked up. Didn't help that the Monster Energy Drink people were down there giving away Monster Energy Drinks free. I was just all jacked up, I was angry, I was just so many emotions. I went to my favorite park there's a little area in the back that kind of had all to myself and the city and I did a little bit of Tai Chi, right. That didn't help. Sometimes that worked. That didn't help that day and I was so frustrated I was like man, I can't go back home. And I just started walking in the park and this little voice says to me just let it go. I was like gosh, could it be that simple? This is before I found this.

Speaker 2:

Right.

Speaker 1:

I stopped and I closed my eyes. I stand in there and I let myself feel all that emotion. I honored and dropped all resistance to it, right. And then, when I had felt it all and I acknowledged it all and I honored it all, I just simply 360 degrees, just let it go.

Speaker 2:

And.

Speaker 1:

I turned to walk to the front of the bar to get my car to go to my mom's house, giggling.

Speaker 2:

I love that.

Speaker 1:

There's a freedom in this right and what the real freedom in this is. Once you get good at releasing this, once you get good at letting things go like that, you can actually feel free to experience the emotional experience in its richness and entirety, because you know it's not going to get the better of you or it's going to get stuck.

Speaker 2:

Fantastic, and so would you say that the clients that you work with, through doing this practice with you, having you guide them through potentially after the whole session or multiple sessions are they then able to kind of guide themselves through the process? Is it something that they can continue to practice on their own?

Speaker 1:

What we just discussed? Yes, absolutely. Plus, remember, if I spend five, six months with someone doing this work in a weekly or biweekly basis, their subconscious is so calm that a little monkey mind is very quiet by the end of it and that is, that is a permanent change.

Speaker 1:

We've released this emotional energy that was leading to the overthinking and the overwhelm and the panic attacks and things like anxiety. Um, so they're a very different person, really closer to their original blueprint in the end, right. So, uh, I had a, a client who came to me and she was, you know, very um, she would get very overwhelmed. I mean, she was literally fetal position, crying for days on on the seemingly the simplest thing like her car broke down. She needed to get a different car, like she'd just be fetal for like two weeks.

Speaker 1:

It was nuts, right, um, that's a technical term. She really embraced this work, right, and recently she was out on, um, like people in her life started saying like, wow, this you're really different, wow you're so much more centered, wow, you're so much calmer. And, um, she was out, uh, canoeing or kayaking with uh, with her daughter on a river recently and, um, they, they flipped the kayak right and her daughter went into the 16 year old daughter like went into this, like panic mode, right, just total freaking out, right, and of course, she used to the mom used to then match the energy.

Speaker 2:

Right Yep.

Speaker 1:

That's again the double-edged sword of empathy, right and um, she was sitting in my last week saying, you know, I just I didn't freak out, that's cool, that's very cool. And her kid, who you know, she'd been saying for some time like you really just need to go see Adam right, to deal with your anxiety, the kid was finally like that's it, that was the thing. Like she saw that in her mom and it was like okay, whatever this guy's got going on, you know I need to, I need, I need to go get something.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, I need a piece of the pie. Yeah, fantastic, wow, well, everything that you shared here today was super powerful. It's incredible that the transformation that this work is creating People are overcoming these subconscious blocks, these things they've been dealing with their whole life Like. It really is fascinating. So you mentioned earlier your podcast, the Loving Our Life's Work podcast. Who is this podcast for? What are you talking about on the show?

Speaker 1:

This is for people who really have found their purpose, their meaning, and then they're living that out. And then what they want to do is they come on my show to share with my audience their passion for what they're doing, how they came about it, what it looks like, so that they can inspire other people to find and live their life's work, their life's purpose. And so it's been really great. I have met with some absolutely amazing people who are doing some really incredible things.

Speaker 2:

Very cool and it's kind of a reflection of your personal journey through the story of your brother and how that all unfolded and now you are literally doing your life's work, so it's all full circle. I love that. That's fantastic.

Speaker 1:

Yep, that's it. In fact, I'm sitting in Life's Work Clinic right now where my wife and I are developing. We're about 95% through the funding process to develop Life's Work Holistic Learning Center on our family farm property. And then we're forming. We just decided two weeks ago to form the Life's Work 501c3 to help increase access to these types of services for people.

Speaker 2:

Amazing. This is amazing, and I love that you're doing this work with your wife as well. You know you guys are in it together and what purposeful work and it just must bring you so much joy.

Speaker 1:

It's the meaning that we apply to things, right. I mean, yeah, is it stressful? Yeah, is it busy? Yeah, of course, right. I mean, anything worth doing is right. But when you have that meeting and that purpose and and I didn't meet my wife until we were older, I was 41. She was 38. Right, and we'd already done a lot of our our own inner work and so when we came together, it was just like right away we were like, yes, this is it. And so, you know, we're quite a few years into this now and we, you know, it is an absolute joy to work with her and she's actually out getting a massage right now, and it really it's our life's work. And the name isn't just the name, really it encapsulates the drive and the meaning behind the different aspects of what we do in our business and in our personal lives.

Speaker 2:

Fantastic. I love that, Adam. It's been an absolute pleasure to have this conversation with you today. It was kind of drawn out. It was a long time since we had done our pre-interview, but we're here. We did it. I'm so glad that we did Any final thoughts before we wrap up and I'd love for you to share the best way that people can get in touch with you if they want to learn more about what you do or even get in touch with you to book a session.

Speaker 1:

Sure, I would say I said it earlier and I'll say it again, and I say it like a broken record in my work and in my life there's never any substitute for doing the important inner work. The more we can go inside and clean up the mess that our childhood, our adolescence brought about, our interacting with the civilization that seems determined right to toxify every aspect of our being, the more we can clean up, the more we can let go of the better we feel, the better our lives are, the more meaning we can then fill that space with, the more purpose we can fill that space with. And it's very difficult to go out there and actually do all these different things if our inner environment is toxified by in the case of my work emotional, toxic, emotional, repressed energies. Liberate yourself, get to the point where, when you have an emotion, you can embrace the emotion, you can drop the resistance to it, be with it, knowing that it will pass.

Speaker 1:

Now, sometimes it'll pass like a kidney stump, that's reality, okay, but it's going will pass Now. Sometimes it'll pass like a kidney stump, that's reality, okay, but it's going to pass. And if we can learn to drop our resistance, if we can learn to feel the emotion in its entirety and then let it go, whether that's through working with a licensed or certified professional, or whether that's just our own walk in life, we will. That doing that inner work, cleaning that stuff up inside us, will always benefit us and those around us. And it should get to the point where someone says oh, something different.

Speaker 2:

I love that.

Speaker 1:

And so people can find me at Life's Work Clinic dot com. That's L-I-F-E-S-W-O-R-K Clinic dot com. There's tons of information there as well, as you can look for the Loving Our Life's Work podcast, right, you can look my name up Adam Devaney on on Facebook as well. Name up Adam Devaney on Facebook as well. Not a whole lot on social media, but it really is a great way to reach out and find the work that we're doing. And so, olivia, I just want to thank you again for allowing me this opportunity to go on and on and on about the support work, and I hope that it's really helped people.

Speaker 2:

Absolute pleasure to have you, adam. Thank you so much for being here. That's a wrap on today's episode. I am beyond grateful for your participation in today's conversation. My intention is that the information shared here today has inspired you to deepen your understanding of your emotional health and that of the people around you. When you're ready to start sharpening your tools, head to wwweqnationorg and download our free seven-step guide to upgrading your emotional health. Our website is the best place to connect with our community and get access to free resources. You can also send us your questions through our social media channels linked on the website wwweqnationorg. All the resources from today's show will be in the show notes and before you go, make sure you hit follow so you don't miss an episode. I'm Livia Lauder. See you next time on Emotions Untapped.